1.28.2006
完美的瑕疵
无论任何人，事，或物。。都有瑕疵的存在。而瑕疵。。完美与否。。只在于能否接受它的存在。一旦接受了，真正从心底去接受它之后，一切就会在霎那间变得完美！奇妙吧？很多时候，人往往总爱把瑕疵用放大镜把它给放大来看，而忽略了默默坚守在一旁的美。这么一来所有的美都不存在了，因为眼睛里所能看到的就只有瑕疵。但如果能够同时把美也放大的话，把两者融为一体来看，也许瑕疵则会变得渺小，微不足道了！到那时一切则会变得完美无瑕！！
Be Your Own Cheerleader
A Slice of Life
Be Your Own Cheerleader
Complex our minds may be, but it can really only hold one thought at a time. If you're looking for a way to feel better at any given moment, all you have to do is change what you are focusing on. Your brain is a very powerful tool that you own and you should use to your advantage.
When was the last time you were reminiscing about a great time in your life and it made you feel terrible? When was the last time you were thinking about a painful event in your life and it made you feel good? These paradoxes exist because what you focus on is what you get!
With this in mind, the next time you find yourself in a less than desirable situation, be sure to find the positive side of it and focus your attention on that. Not only will you feel better about the situation, but also you will actually be in a better frame of mind to work through it. With this mind-set you will find yourself focusing on the solution rather than the problem.
The best way to control your focus is to ask yourself good questions. Such as "what can I find that is good in this situation?"..."what have I learned from this that will make me more successful the next time?"...or "how can I make this situation better?" By asking yourself effective questions, you will force your brain to look for and find a solution for what you can do to solve a problem and how you can make a situation better.
On the other hand, if you ask yourself self-defeating questions - such as "why does this always happen to me?"..."why can't I have that?"..."what did I do to deserve this?" and similar ilk, your brain will look for those exact answers and tell you why bad things happen to you, why you can't have something and why you deserve something bad. Now it's one thing when someone else tells you something like that, but when you tell it to yourself, you are sure to believe it! So be your own best cheerleader.
Practise focusing on positive thoughts and learn to ask yourself effective questions that will lead to constructive answers. If you look hard enough, there will always be a positive side to every situation. And for the challenges you must face in life, focus on the solution, not the problem. If you focus on the problem at hand, you will never find the solution. Focus on your dreams and they will become a reality. Ask yourself, "how can I reach my dream?"
Don't be surprised when your brain gives you the answer!
Be Your Own Cheerleader
Complex our minds may be, but it can really only hold one thought at a time. If you're looking for a way to feel better at any given moment, all you have to do is change what you are focusing on. Your brain is a very powerful tool that you own and you should use to your advantage.
When was the last time you were reminiscing about a great time in your life and it made you feel terrible? When was the last time you were thinking about a painful event in your life and it made you feel good? These paradoxes exist because what you focus on is what you get!
With this in mind, the next time you find yourself in a less than desirable situation, be sure to find the positive side of it and focus your attention on that. Not only will you feel better about the situation, but also you will actually be in a better frame of mind to work through it. With this mind-set you will find yourself focusing on the solution rather than the problem.
The best way to control your focus is to ask yourself good questions. Such as "what can I find that is good in this situation?"..."what have I learned from this that will make me more successful the next time?"...or "how can I make this situation better?" By asking yourself effective questions, you will force your brain to look for and find a solution for what you can do to solve a problem and how you can make a situation better.
On the other hand, if you ask yourself self-defeating questions - such as "why does this always happen to me?"..."why can't I have that?"..."what did I do to deserve this?" and similar ilk, your brain will look for those exact answers and tell you why bad things happen to you, why you can't have something and why you deserve something bad. Now it's one thing when someone else tells you something like that, but when you tell it to yourself, you are sure to believe it! So be your own best cheerleader.
Practise focusing on positive thoughts and learn to ask yourself effective questions that will lead to constructive answers. If you look hard enough, there will always be a positive side to every situation. And for the challenges you must face in life, focus on the solution, not the problem. If you focus on the problem at hand, you will never find the solution. Focus on your dreams and they will become a reality. Ask yourself, "how can I reach my dream?"
Don't be surprised when your brain gives you the answer!
1.18.2006
Post from Anonymous - II
Time heals all wounds?
Time can't heal all wounds;
Time is just what we are living by;
It is us who is doing the healing;
Time is only the external factor;
We disregard time when we are doing our healing; only till one day, when we bump into that person, then you realised how long it has been...
Because we all should know and keep this in mind; we HAVE to get over it, and NOT we WILL get over it;
It takes effort to start to stop thinking about it, and that effort is powered by the knowledge that we have to get over things as life has to go on...
时间可以让你淡忘过去， 但是你必须有个开头, 时间才可以和你配合!
It's all in the mind...Time can't help when you don't intiate...it takes two hands to clap!
Time can't heal all wounds;
Time is just what we are living by;
It is us who is doing the healing;
Time is only the external factor;
We disregard time when we are doing our healing; only till one day, when we bump into that person, then you realised how long it has been...
Because we all should know and keep this in mind; we HAVE to get over it, and NOT we WILL get over it;
It takes effort to start to stop thinking about it, and that effort is powered by the knowledge that we have to get over things as life has to go on...
时间可以让你淡忘过去， 但是你必须有个开头, 时间才可以和你配合!
It's all in the mind...Time can't help when you don't intiate...it takes two hands to clap!
Post from an Anonymous
男人 = 难人 ！！
难以了解的人
爱围难人的人
for men: 女人 = 烦人
to women: 女人 = 犯人 (cos we are in their jail of love)
true or not? for you to comment.
p.s.
one thing for sure...obviously this is written by a 女人 *wink*
难以了解的人
爱围难人的人
for men: 女人 = 烦人
to women: 女人 = 犯人 (cos we are in their jail of love)
true or not? for you to comment.
p.s.
one thing for sure...obviously this is written by a 女人 *wink*
1.07.2006
a gang of ‘pigs’
don’t be mistaken, the ‘pigs’ here are no silly or dumb; ugly or fat, but a group of intellectual kind souls. yup, intelligent and kind, not one but all…all the 14 of us. what a braggart!? well…that is how i feel and strongly feel…maybe excluding myself? as that should be for the rest to judge…so piggies do you say the same for me?
how should i start introducing this gang, piggy gang, a name we got for our group. why pigs of all animals? well…i also can’t remember clearly…a time when we start calling each other ‘pigheads’…and it just got stuck with us.
got to know some of the piggies, back in jul, through a long lost primary cum secondary school friend of mine. at first it was just the few of us, weekly blading session at east coast park, but from there on, the group just gets bigger, with each bringing pals of theirs. from weekly sports session; movies and chit-chatting over coffee, to crazy celebrations of piggies’ birthdays; unforgettable holiday trips, x’mas & new year celebrations. the piggies does it all, together as a group.
6mths, not a very short nor long time, but i should say short for the kind of bonding we have within the group, all of us who used to belong to different groups, coming together and click like magic. its really amazing, the fun we had; the support we gave one another; the confide we have…its just magical!
and now…introducing the piggies…starting from the one who start it all, who got the few of us together, on a bright & sunny sunday afternoon in jul: alicia (the meow), andy (the woof), bernis (the sleeping beauty), clarence (the smdj), edward, edwin (the froggie), jasmine (the jasmine flower), jason (the pighead), joycelyn, xiujuan, sebas (the guitarist), teck, yvonne, and not forgetting myself.
few words for the piggies:
no words can really describe how thankful i am to have known each and every one of you. to be truthful, my lifestyle changed ever since then, from a monotonous boring one to a fun and loving one. its not the fun that you all have brought into my life, but the sincerity that i get from all of you that i truly treasure. i really hope that the spirit can continue, and the group will still have the same bonding, 10yrs down the road.
how should i start introducing this gang, piggy gang, a name we got for our group. why pigs of all animals? well…i also can’t remember clearly…a time when we start calling each other ‘pigheads’…and it just got stuck with us.
got to know some of the piggies, back in jul, through a long lost primary cum secondary school friend of mine. at first it was just the few of us, weekly blading session at east coast park, but from there on, the group just gets bigger, with each bringing pals of theirs. from weekly sports session; movies and chit-chatting over coffee, to crazy celebrations of piggies’ birthdays; unforgettable holiday trips, x’mas & new year celebrations. the piggies does it all, together as a group.
6mths, not a very short nor long time, but i should say short for the kind of bonding we have within the group, all of us who used to belong to different groups, coming together and click like magic. its really amazing, the fun we had; the support we gave one another; the confide we have…its just magical!
and now…introducing the piggies…starting from the one who start it all, who got the few of us together, on a bright & sunny sunday afternoon in jul: alicia (the meow), andy (the woof), bernis (the sleeping beauty), clarence (the smdj), edward, edwin (the froggie), jasmine (the jasmine flower), jason (the pighead), joycelyn, xiujuan, sebas (the guitarist), teck, yvonne, and not forgetting myself.
few words for the piggies:
no words can really describe how thankful i am to have known each and every one of you. to be truthful, my lifestyle changed ever since then, from a monotonous boring one to a fun and loving one. its not the fun that you all have brought into my life, but the sincerity that i get from all of you that i truly treasure. i really hope that the spirit can continue, and the group will still have the same bonding, 10yrs down the road.
good or bad?
so is it a good or bad? that would have to depend on if you learn from it. it is a lot easier to learn from others, but way harder to learn from yourself, your own history, own setbacks. ironically, it is always what you learn from your own that is beneficial to yourself.
“there's no use in overreacting to the events and circumstances of our everyday lives. many times what looks like a setback, may actually be a gift in disguise. and when our hearts are in the right place, all events and circumstances are gifts that we can learn valuable lessons from.”
for the full story: http://www.938live.sg/asol/Newsletter/4Jan.htm
art of perfection
very often you will get to hear this sentence make by many “he/she is not bad except for...” well...who in this world is perfect? even if you were to come across one, would you believe so? i doubt so. the first question that might flash in your mind would be “how can he/she be so perfect? there must be somewhere that is not.”
so you might wonder…then why the title on art of perfection? well…perfection or not will boil down to each individual’s perception towards it. for me…my own and personal theory would be…human being are all short-sighted…so…“look at the good points and overlook the bad ones.” with this theory of mine, all would be perfect, and life would be happier…so why not?
1.03.2006
勇气之书
好友借了我一本很有趣，很可爱的“勇气之书”。。在此挑选了几段与你们分享。。
“如果，你有些矛盾，对未来的路失去继续下去的力气。。。
我想我是虚弱的，因此我必须不时地提醒自己，
要努力，要坚强，要有耐心，有勇气，
当初你给我的勇气，现在借由小勇与米小鼠(书中人物),
我将它转回给你;给你给我的勇气。”
那些阻你碍你的，
常常不是谁或者环境；
那些该死的阻力，
通常来自你犹豫不定，游移的心。
会不会，懂不懂，行不行，
都不是问题。
真正的问题是，
你想不想。
都过去了，别再想了。
该来的来，该去的，就让他去。
（事情没那么麻烦，那么坏，你有我在，烦恼减半。）
总有时候，我们得努力骗自己没事，
这样日子才过得下去啊。
哎呀呀。
就说嘛，人算不如天算。
所以，尽力做好现在！
你就是你。
最难的是，找回自己，并做回自己。
我不需要回答你。
你，只是在问自己。
大部分的时间，大部分的事，
你，都清楚该这么做，
不是吗？
以为只要付出很多，
就可以得到很多。
问题时，大部分的事，
都用我们所不能理解的程式，
在计算，在运作啊！
所以，我们还是只管付出，
别问回报吧。
世界上有两种人。
一种人面对现实，一种人逃避。
逃避的人活得比较轻松。
面对现实的人充满勇气无限！！
人一闲啊，就会有疑虑。
所以振作振作，
别老是太闲，
胡思乱想，
想东想西。
因为碰到这么多事，
我才会改变。
不！应该是说；
我，不得不。
（其实，有时，改变也可能是件好事。）
“如果，你有些矛盾，对未来的路失去继续下去的力气。。。
我想我是虚弱的，因此我必须不时地提醒自己，
要努力，要坚强，要有耐心，有勇气，
当初你给我的勇气，现在借由小勇与米小鼠(书中人物),
我将它转回给你;给你给我的勇气。”
那些阻你碍你的，
常常不是谁或者环境；
那些该死的阻力，
通常来自你犹豫不定，游移的心。
会不会，懂不懂，行不行，
都不是问题。
真正的问题是，
你想不想。
都过去了，别再想了。
该来的来，该去的，就让他去。
（事情没那么麻烦，那么坏，你有我在，烦恼减半。）
总有时候，我们得努力骗自己没事，
这样日子才过得下去啊。
哎呀呀。
就说嘛，人算不如天算。
所以，尽力做好现在！
你就是你。
最难的是，找回自己，并做回自己。
我不需要回答你。
你，只是在问自己。
大部分的时间，大部分的事，
你，都清楚该这么做，
不是吗？
以为只要付出很多，
就可以得到很多。
问题时，大部分的事，
都用我们所不能理解的程式，
在计算，在运作啊！
所以，我们还是只管付出，
别问回报吧。
世界上有两种人。
一种人面对现实，一种人逃避。
逃避的人活得比较轻松。
面对现实的人充满勇气无限！！
人一闲啊，就会有疑虑。
所以振作振作，
别老是太闲，
胡思乱想，
想东想西。
因为碰到这么多事，
我才会改变。
不！应该是说；
我，不得不。
（其实，有时，改变也可能是件好事。）
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